Do Dream Guys Exsist in the Virtual World?

Contributor: Tiffany A. Catch
Dating Advice: Dr. Neil Clark Warren the creator of eHarmony.com

A few years ago my cousin came up to me and told me that she had a dream that I married her ex-boyfriend. My first question; Is he cute? Second question; Are you ok with that?
Well since that dream I have signed up for a few online dating services. I have scoped out the guys and even emailed back and forth with a few. Which was all in good fun and confidence boosting but when it came to meeting someone I would always chicken out and just let things fade out.

When I was contacted by my Dream Guy; a handsome guy, my age, my state, a career in the same field, and an ex-boyfriend of my cousin! I thought, if I am ever going to go through with meeting someone I have a good feeling about this Dream Guy. We exchanged a few emails getting to know each other and than I extended the invite for a group get together. He responded with," Oh my gosh was that an official invite? I think I just hyperventilated, see I had really just joined this online dating for some funny stories....but you don't live too far away and seem pretty cool...so yeah I'd like to get together." Then I responded with letting him know that this was the first time I had ever planned to meet someone from an online dating. He said, "I don't know if you're some Internet creeper but I should warn you that me and my friends are pretty ripped...just saying, but if you are a beautiful girl named Tiffany then I am excited to meet you!" I responded by saying, " Ok I'll make some treats you bring the six packs...of soda of course ;)"

Of course meeting my Dream Guy was a total success! He was cuter in person and a ton of fun! I had a great time and he even showed up with six packs of sodas! After the date he updated on his Facebook that he had a really great time and positive experience with online dating :) We emailed a few more times, but NO second date. :( It's alright because going out with him reminded me about how I use to get excited about dating, Dream Guy reminded me that was how dating was supposed to feel like since I was feeling discouraged by the lack of excitement I have been feeling about dates...I guess I'll keep Dreaming and cyber stalking haha!

Spiderwebs

Contributor: Tiffany A. Catch
Advice Reference: Gwen Stefani said it best in No Doubt's Spiderwebs!

I had been asked out by Iron Bored, he saw me at a party and wanted to talk to me but my time was being monopolized by Tonka and Iron Bored never worked up the courage to interrupt. Instead he emailed me the next day expressing his regrets to introduce himself and asking for a chance to make it up. Forgiving the fact that he didn't have the courage to talk to me the first time I agreed to a date. In emails and on the date Iron Bored would volunteer information so that I may be able to get to know him better. Two facts he kept repeating was that he was a twist the top off the toothpaste kind of guy because he thought it was neater and that he has to run six miles a day. He also carried a laminated card of his family member's birthdays. He than cut our date early so that he could go home to get to bed because he had to wake up to iron his shirts because he could not wear a shirt which had been ironed the night before. This little bit of information was enough for me to know that Mikey was not for me. Although, I do enjoy a clean home, I am more relaxed in my efforts to achieve it so that life doesn't become to routine and boring.

A week later when the phone rang and it was him, I actually ANSWERED! Apparently answering a phone call is unheard of because he said, " Oh you answered... What I had to say was really more for voicemail....but I guess I'll just say it anyways. ( I quickly suggested I hang up and he could call back because what could he possibly prefer to say on Voicemail?? I'll admit I was secretly hoping that he would say I think you're great but I am just not feeling a connection) Instead I hear, " Hey I am just calling to see how your week is going. Hope it's going well and I wanted to tell you I think you are funny and I would like to take you out again."......
I think I uttered something like that was nice...ok I'll call you later.

So in the words of Gwen Stefani, "You think that we connect, that the chemistry's correct....Don't have the courage inside me to tell you please let me be....and it's all your fault, I screen my phone calls...so leave a message and I'll call you back!" Moral of the story...if you don't feel comfortable saying it straight to the person DON'T SAY IT!!